When I was younger, my family lived far away from my grandparents, and we’d travel once or twice a year to visit them. I’ll always remember how my dad would remind us of certain house rules before they would even let us out of the van. They went something like this: “Always say yes ma’am and no ma’am, pick up after yourself, don’t bother their dog, and above all else … DO NOT touch their expensive coffee table.”

I remember how nervous I was at their house. I wanted to make sure that I didn’t mess up and leave my cup on their treasured coffee table. I mean, for real, guys–no one was allowed to touch that table. In my young mind, I really thought that my grandparents might not love me if I touched that table.

So when my coworker came across some rules for visitors posted on a church website, I couldn’t help but think that visitors to this church are probably feeling the same way I did.

I won’t link to their page, but here are a few examples:

  • Please dispose of all gum, candy, and food before entering the sanctuary.
  • Photography prohibited.
  • Avoid walking, talking, or distracting anyone while scripture is being read.
  • Bring your bible to church and read it diligently every day.
  • Arrive on time and don’t leave until the service is complete.

Do rules like this possibly cause people (especially unchurched people) to feel judged by a church before even stepping through the church doors?

Are these rules creating an inviting and welcoming culture? We are all free to have our own opinions, but I am going to say no. I think posting rules and etiquette like this on your website will push lost and unchurched people away from EVER visiting church. I might be wrong, but I doubt Jesus would have cared if someone was chewing gum during one of his sermons.

Just something to think about as you write or update any content on your website aimed toward visitors. Think about the message you’re conveying.